Posted: Mon Sep 10, 2007 7:20 pm Post subject: Coworkers...
...you don't choose them, do you? At least I don't.
Most people at work are nice but there are a few who aren't. Like one whose presence I had to endure today. She's the biggest control freak I have ever met. She'll come at you even if you've done nothing wrong. If a mistake has been made somebody has to be told and taught and that "somebody" might as well be you. She'll tell you about the most basic things, things that I've known for years. It's like if a computer scientist friend of mine was looking for a certain file, and I would tell him in a serious way: if you want to search for a file, you go to Search. It's almost insulting.
After one in a series of such "incidents" today another coworker asked me how things were going, and I said that one just has to take a few deep breaths, and she knew exactly what I was talking about. I did the trembling-hands-test too; I held out my hands and they were pretty far from still. It doesn't matter if try to explain to this woman because she's always "right". All you can do is "admit" the "mistake" and pretend to be grateful when she tells and/or shows you how it's supposed to be done.
It doesn't matter if try to explain to this woman because she's always "right". All you can do is "admit" the "mistake" and pretend to be grateful when she tells and/or shows you how it's supposed to be done.
You just found out how to handle such characters. Those are not the most difficult ones to make do with. Alas !
It doesn't matter if try to explain to this woman because she's always "right". All you can do is "admit" the "mistake" and pretend to be grateful when she tells and/or shows you how it's supposed to be done.
You just found out how to handle such characters. Those are not the most difficult ones to make do with. Alas !
Agree. Just pretend to go along, and laugh about it afterwards. After all, she's the one making a fool of herself! Don't let her get to you, her own insecurity is making her behave like that. _________________ Toe ek jonk was, het ek al die antwoorde geken. Nou verstaan ek nie eens die vrae nie.
Location: El Pueblo de Nuestra Señora la Reina de los Angeles del Río de Porciúncula
Posted: Tue Sep 11, 2007 8:11 pm Post subject:
Walker wrote:
It doesn't matter if try to explain to this woman because she's always "right". All you can do is "admit" the "mistake" and pretend to be grateful when she tells and/or shows you how it's supposed to be done.
Ick. Sounds like she's insecure and must resort to that behavior to make herself feel like she's better than you and everyone else. I would let her have her way but I'd be so over-the-top with my gratefulness and praise that she would wonder if I was being genuine-- "Oh, honey, whatever would we do without you?", "You are a godsend!" stuff like that.
My office peeve is the loud-mouthed co-worker in the office or cubicle next door whose every phone conversation you're privy to because he either uses a headset and must project his voice or talk on speaker phone or alternate between the two. Said co-worker also has the annoying habit of yelling across the room and down the hallway to chat with others rather than having the common courtesy of picking up the receiver and hitting intercom. What especially sticks in my craw is when he calls for his assistant who is clearly not at her desk but keeps on calling, "Leigh! Leigh! Oh, Leigh! Leigh, are you there?" then he'll go around the office looking for her while calling out "Leigh! Leigh! Where are you, Leigh?" Hello????? There are people working here that you are disturbing! Common courtesy, asswipe!
Another peeve of mine is when people leave file folders, paperwork, and other things that need your attention on your chair rather than in your IN box. Next time I'll just sit on it and pretend I never saw it. "Oh... is this what you were looking for?"
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I'm in school full-time so I have an excuse not to work. (That's what I'm doing while you guys are working) _________________ L'homme est comme Dieu l'a fait et un peu pire/ L'homme est le seul animal qui détruit pour le plaisir
It all depends on whether a nuisance is your superior - if so, I'd be diplomatic. If not, then I'd just simply tell him to leave me alone.
Anyway, it's not easy to get by with colleagues at work, even with the "equal" ones. I, for example, always try to achieve maximum comfort with minimum effort in dealing with coworkers. There is however a "critical point" (too much effort or too little comfort) and crossing this line will eventually lead to eruption. Fortunately, I haven't crossed it yet.
It all depends on whether a nuisance is your superior - if so, I'd be diplomatic. If not, then I'd just simply tell him to leave me alone.
Anyway, it's not easy to get by with colleagues at work, even with the "equal" ones. I, for example, always try to achieve maximum comfort with minimum effort in dealing with coworkers. There is however a "critical point" (too much effort or too little comfort) and crossing this line will eventually lead to eruption. Fortunately, I haven't crossed it yet.
Thanks for your comments, everybody! Ksa, I've reached that "critical point" many times but my eruption has never been noticable, at least not in an audible way. I should be less diplomatic; I hardly ever say no and I hardly ever complain even though I should. It's like a curse, being like that. I think too much in terms of "rank" (I would have the lowest "rank") and I don't want to be a nuisance to anyone else, I guess. Also, my employment isn't permanent which means they could "let me go" anytime they wanted. However, I know they need me. According to some I am the boss in my section at work. But I don't see myself as a boss, but more of a mentor or tutor (a job I never asked for), besides doing the job I'm there do to.
Location: El Pueblo de Nuestra Señora la Reina de los Angeles del Río de Porciúncula
Posted: Thu Sep 20, 2007 1:12 am Post subject:
Walker wrote:
I've reached that "critical point" many times but my eruption has never been noticable, at least not in an audible way. I should be less diplomatic; I hardly ever say no and I hardly ever complain even though I should. It's like a curse, being like that. I think too much in terms of "rank" (I would have the lowest "rank") and I don't want to be a nuisance to anyone else, I guess.
Walker, Walker, Walker... You've heard of the saying "the squeaky wheel gets the grease" right? So speak up and let your voice be heard!
I've reached that "critical point" many times but my eruption has never been noticable, at least not in an audible way. I should be less diplomatic; I hardly ever say no and I hardly ever complain even though I should. It's like a curse, being like that. I think too much in terms of "rank" (I would have the lowest "rank") and I don't want to be a nuisance to anyone else, I guess.
Walker, Walker, Walker... You've heard of the saying "the squeaky wheel gets the grease" right? So speak up and let your voice be heard!
I might have heard that expression and I see what you mean. I do know that I should speak up but the hard thing is doing it. Now that you have encouraged me, however, I should be able to do it more. She came at me a little today as well, and as I acted as if I were paying all my attention to what she was saying, I was thinking God... God... However, she did give me some information that I didn't already know, and that was pretty cool. You know, pre-maturely born babies who weigh slightly less than a kilo have only about one dl of blood in them, and imagine how difficult it must be to get 10 ml of urine of out those babies (twice had such a urine sample been lost - somebody'd misplaced them).
Do you ever get into a sort of flow at your work? I sometimes do and this afternoon I did. It was pretty stressful, a lot to do and a lot of people, but because of one's skills things ran pretty smoothly. I imagine that it's like juggling a bunch of eggs and none of them hits the ground... because of you. You juggle with confidence. I like that feeling. Plus I managed to be nice and friendly to a pretty nurse who came by (sometimes the self-defence mechanism that I've somehow managed to install over the years kicks in when a beautiful girl is near, which means that I might be a bit cold and dark, but still polite). She didn't acknowledge my being nice but I don't care. It was a pretty good day.
Since this is the Rant Forum I won't apologize for this post.
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"Oh... is this what you were looking for?"
(That's what I'm doing while you guys are working)
You've heard of the saying "the squeaky wheel gets the grease" right? So speak up and let your voice be heard!